Crystal clear

I am often torn between “hurt people hurt people” and “F%#& that! People know better!”   At this stage of my life, I know both statements to be true. It takes compassion and a genuine desire to know somebody, to tell the statement that carries the truth. Psychology explains that victims tend to become abusers at some point in their lives, in a way or another. I believe this to be true, since hurt people do hurt people; intentionally or not. Usually, shedding light on someone’s abusive behaviors triggers reactions and conversations that will give you a hint on their true intentions - if your intention is to listen, attentively. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you confront somebody about something they have said that did not sit well with you and they deny ever saying it? If yes, I bet your first reaction to their denial was disbelief, wasn’t it? But the human mind has an admirable ability to keep upsetting experiences intact for the longest time, so yo...

There is a reason why you are where you are in your life at the present moment. That reason is as valid as your past and everything you are yet to experience. No situation in your life is ever accidental; I strongly believe so. The beast you are being shaped into is worth every smile and every tear you shed along the way. The path you are on is the right one for your soul growth, no matter how it may look like.   Practicing this belief not only helps focusing on the (b)right side of any situation, but it also gives you purpose and gives your battles a meaning, rightfully so. “La vie n’est pas un long fleuve tranquille” ( literal translation: Life is not a long quiet river. Metaphorical meaning: life is not easy.). Whoever said this should have added: “et on ne t'apprendra pas toujours à nager.” (You will not always be taught how to swim.) That’s right. No one ever said that “the path” was gonna be an easy one. Similarly, no one ever said that others are obliged to stick ...

If wisdom has not emerged from the situation yet,  baby, you are still hurting. Image source: internet