Shedding light on the darkness
I am often torn between “hurt people hurt people” and “F%#& that! People know better!” At this stage of my life, I know both statements to be true. It takes compassion and a genuine desire to know somebody, to tell the statement that carries the truth. Psychology explains that victims tend to become abusers at some point in their lives, in a way or another. I believe this to be true, since hurt people do hurt people; intentionally or not. Usually, shedding light on someone’s abusive behaviors triggers reactions and conversations that will give you a hint on their true intentions - if your intention is to listen, attentively. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you confront somebody about something they have said that did not sit well with you and they deny ever saying it? If yes, I bet your first reaction to their denial was disbelief, wasn’t it? But the human mind has an admirable ability to keep upsetting experiences intact for the longest time, so yo...