Shedding light on the darkness
I am often torn between “hurt people hurt people” and “F%#& that! People know better!” At this stage of my life, I know both statements to be true. It takes compassion and a genuine desire to know somebody, to tell the statement that carries the truth. Psychology explains that victims tend to become abusers at some point in their lives, in a way or another. I believe this to be true, since hurt people do hurt people; intentionally or not. Usually, shedding light on someone’s abusive behaviors triggers reactions and conversations that will give you a hint on their true intentions - if your intention is to listen, attentively. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you confront somebody about something they have said that did not sit well with you and they deny ever saying it? If yes, I bet your first reaction to their denial was disbelief, wasn’t it? But the human mind has an admirable ability to keep upsetting experiences intact for the longest time, so you know fo